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Are you a bored stay at home mom? Or do you feel like you’ve lost your joy in motherhood?
After becoming a stay at home mother in 2017, I found myself spending more and more time on my phone. Why?
Bored Stay at Home Mom
After much prayer and reading, I came to the conclusion that I was bored with the mundane. Yes, moms have a million and five things to do – making appointments, cleaning the house, changing diapers, play dates, cooking dinner, etc. But, as the long days at home went on, all of those things started to feel more and more mundane. There was no more weekend, just a world full of Mondays.
Being a boy mom keeps me on my toes, but even grabbing objects out of the baby’s mouth and stopping the preschooler from trying to jump off the table becomes routine. A frustrating routine that can lead to checking out mentally.
How many stay at home moms find themselves lacking a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day? Surely I’m not the only one.
So, what’s the problem? How do we move from being a bored stay at home mom to finding joy in motherhood?
Separating the Sacred from the Secular
The book, The Practice of the Presence of God was once recommended to me by my pastor. This book includes writing, letters, and dictations from a 17th-century monk, Brother Lawrence. Even though I don’t agree with all of his theology, if you want an attitude check, then this book is for you. I remember being convicted as I read about Brother Lawrence using everyday, mundane tasks to worship God.
In her article, Experiencing Joy and Purpose as a Stay-at-Home Parent, Jodi McIsaac Martens describes the change that came about she read the book. Martens asked herself the question, “Does my household work play a significant role in my spiritual life?” Her answer was no, and when I asked myself this question as a new stay at home mom, my answer was also, obviously, no.
She goes on to discuss the separation of the sacred and the secular. The sacred is for Sunday morning worship, sharing the good news of the Gospel, going on a mission trip, etc. The secular is everything else. Sweeping up cheerios, teaching my child how to use the potty, and folding a mountain of laundry are secular, completely separate from my sacred “quiet time.”
But should they be?
How to Enjoy Motherhood
Being a stereotypical missionary going on brave adventures to bring the Gospel to the unreached people of a remote mountain village sounds entertaining and exciting. Staying home with a 2-year-old boy sounds much less glamorous.
Is being a career missionary really exciting and glamorous? No, it involves daily sacrifice, perseverance, and testing of faith. Being a career missionary can be both dangerous and lonely. But from here, while rocking my screaming son or from the church pew as I try not to let my mind wander and think about this week’s meal plan, the grass on the other side appears fulfilling and meaningful.
If, however, we combine the sacred and the secular, like Brother Lawrence, we find ourselves serving a sovereign, almighty God in every moment. The mundane is now a sacred act of worship. That is exciting!
Is holding my son during a meltdown fun? Absolutely not, but it reminds me of the love God has poured into my broken heart. Is crying after I have my own meltdown fun? Nope, but I am reminded of God’s faithfulness and mercy in each moment. When I clean up yet another diaper blowout, I persevere and do all things to and for His glory.
In each little moment, I have the opportunity to show my sons the incredible God I serve. That is an amazing and fulfilling purpose. Christ is using this time of my life to shape my character.
Are you a bored stay at home mom?
Is being a mother hard? Yes, but He is worth it.
Want to go deeper? Here are some verses to read.
If you still find yourself distracted by the busy but mundane aspects of your day, be sure to check out these great resources for stay at home moms!
“Fixing My Eyes” Bible Journal
Learn how I make the most of my limited time by having a plan every time I sit to read the Bible. This free printable gives you everything you need to look to Jesus whether you have 5 minutes or 50.
Learn how to meditate on, think deeply about the Scripture, even as you go about your daily routines. These mobile guides are perfect for the stay at home mom who wants to see the mundane as acts of worship.
I would love to hear from you! How do you find meaning and purpose as a mother? When you find yourself separating the “sacred” and the “secular,” how do you intentionally strive to worship God in all things?